If you have not been through a divorce, second-hand advice from friends or coworkers can sound certain and still be wrong. Acting on divorce myths can hurt custody, support, and property outcomes. This list clears up ten common misconceptions. It is general information for Ontario readers, not legal advice speak with a family lawyer before you decide. When adultery or parenting disputes need facts, licensed investigators can support counsel through infidelity investigations and related family files.
What are common myths about divorce?
- “Adulterers lose everything.” Infidelity can end a marriage, but it does not automatically strip someone of property. Asset division follows family-law rules. Wasteful spending of marital assets can matter; cheating alone usually does not. If you need lawful evidence of a cheating partner, see how investigators approach collecting infidelity evidence.
- “Missed child support means no visitation.” Denying parenting time because support is unpaid is not a lawful self-help remedy. Support and access are enforced through separate processes.
- “A spouse can block the divorce forever.” Film plots aside, once legal requirements are met and parenting/financial issues are resolved by agreement or court order, a divorce can proceed under the applicable rules, your lawyer can explain timelines for your situation.
- “You must have a lawyer.” People may represent themselves, but family files are easy to mishandle. Professional advice is strongly recommended when children, support, or significant assets are involved.
- “Mothers always win custody.” Modern decisions focus on the best interests of the child, not a parent’s gender. Circumstances, caregiving history, and stability matter more than stereotypes.
- “Child support can be avoided.” Support obligations are set by law. Non-payment can trigger enforcement. Hoping the issue disappears is a myth.
- “You must divorce where you married.” People move. Filing rules depend on residence and jurisdiction requirements—not only the wedding location. Confirm with counsel where you live now.
- “Children choose who they live with.” A child’s preference may be considered depending on age and maturity, but the decision is not theirs alone. Judges weigh best interests overall.
- “Divorce always means war.” Many separations stay hostile; others resolve through negotiation or mediation. Choosing a conflict-reducing process can change the tone of the file.
- “Most divorces end in a dramatic trial.” Many settle without a full trial. Agreement on parenting and money often avoids courtroom theatre and the cost that comes with it.
How do private investigators fit into divorce and custody disputes?
Investigators do not replace lawyers. They document facts infidelity, lifestyle, or safety concerns, when counsel needs evidence that holds up. For parenting and domestic files, see our child custody and domestic violence investigation service. Always prioritize lawful methods and your lawyer’s strategy.
Need confidential help in Ontario?
Investigation Hotline has supported family-related investigations across Toronto, the GTA, and Ontario since 1988. Call (416) 205-9114 for a confidential consultation. If you are in immediate danger, call 911.
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